Feeling Lost or Struggling to Cope at Home or Work? You Are Not Broken
- Justine
- Feb 9
- 3 min read
In my clinic, I hear the same words repeated, often whispered through tears: "I feel like I don't belong here." "Everyone else seems to have the manual for life, and I missed the meeting." "I am drowning, but I am too afraid to ask for help."
If you are reading this and those sentences resonate with you, I want you to know one thing immediately:
You are not broken.
If you are feeling untethered in your own life and feeling "lost" you may have realised that this a heavy burden to carry alone.
Feeling Lost or Struggling to Cope at Home or Work?
One of the most common themes I see in my private practice at Explore Heal Grow is the deep-seated belief that we need to change who we are to fit in.
This is especially true for neurodiverse individuals.
Many women in their 40s and 50s are only now realising that their lifelong feelings of being "different," "too sensitive," or "disorganised" might actually be undiagnosed ADHD or Autism.
For decades, you may have been "masking"—exhausting yourself trying to act like everyone else. When that mask slips, it doesn't feel like freedom; initially, it feels like failure. It feels like you are struggling to cope with basic tasks that others find easy.
But this isn't a failure of character. It is simply a sign that you have been trying to force a square peg into a round hole.
The Fear of Asking for Help
Why is it that the more we struggle, the harder it becomes to ask for support?
We often view reaching out as a sign of weakness. We tell ourselves, "I should be able to handle this," or "Other people have it worse." This hyper-independence is often a trauma response. It is a wall we built to protect ourselves, but now that wall is keeping us isolated.
Whether you are struggling with your physical health due to stress, feeling disconnected from your friends, or watching your self-esteem plummet, silence is the fuel that keeps these problems burning. Feeling lost, like you don't belong or struggling to cope at home or work can add to the pressure.
The Body Keeps the Score
When we ignore our emotional needs, our bodies often scream the loudest. Unexplained headaches, chronic fatigue, digestive issues, and a constant feeling of being "wired but tired" are all signals from your nervous system.
It is your body saying: I cannot keep doing this. I need to feel safe.
Moving from "Lost" to "Found"
The journey of therapy isn't about "fixing" you, because there is nothing wrong with you. It is about uncovering you.
Are ready to dive deeper? This is a dedicated space for this work. Using tools like EMDR and trauma-informed coaching, we can look at those feelings of not belonging, dismantle the "I'm fine" barrier and rebuild your self-esteem on a foundation of truth, not performance.
You Do Not Have to Wait
If you are struggling to access support elsewhere, please know that we do not have waiting lists. We believe that when you are brave enough to ask for help, you deserve an answer.
If you are feeling lost, let this be your signpost. You belong here, just as you are.
Ready to turn your life around? This is our most comprehensive support package, wrapping professional therapy, guided tools, and self-care into one transformative experience.
What is included:
8 x Online Therapy Sessions: Weekly 50-minute appointments with Justine to deep-dive into your challenges.
Structured Guidance: Access to our downloadable 8-week therapy journal to guide your progress between sessions.
Reflection Tools: A beautiful blank journal for your personal thoughts.
Doorstep Self-Care: Two exclusive, hand-designed gifts sent to your home during the programme to support your wellbeing journey.
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